Dr (Col) V K Wadia is a renowned medical doctor with 35 yrs of practice. His expertise in treatment of Sex Problems, and effective result oriented counselling in Marriage & Relationship has won many accolades.

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Phone No. (Delhi) 9891152777 9891192777

Tele-Counselling

For patients unable to make a visit to the clinic personally, this option allows to obtain Sex & Relationship Counselling from Dr.Wadia over the Phone or Skype, and receive an opinion about possible treatment options.

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Sexual Counselling

Sexual Counselling is directed at providing the right perspective of ‘sex & sexuality’. While ‘sex’ implies the sexual interaction, ‘sexuality’ encompasses a host of factors but can be summed up in simplest words as ‘Sexual Personality’. Sex & sexuality are inherent to a human. Sexual attitudes & sexual personality are inseparable ingredients of an individual’s overall attitude & personality around which the happiness in life revolves. Thus, to be happy in life, it is of utmost importance that a person develops a healthy sexuality. Sexual attitudes & personality are not spontaneous or inborn. They are developed during the course of life either by experience which is long drawn process, or thru sexual counselling. The Counselling provides realistic & scientifically credible awareness of sex & inculcates healthy sexual behavior thereby making counselees comfortable with their sexuality.

The counselling answers many questions about sex few of which are listed below.

Is sex not natural & spontaneous? Why sex counselling then? And who all should take counselling?
Sexual urge is between ears (mind) & therefore, is natural & innate. But the sexual act is between the thighs and is learnt. One does not know spontaneously how to perform sex but learns it either through experience (exploration & experimentation) or the sexual counselling. Sex thus, is a behavior. And like all behaviors, one has to learn its proper technique. If faulty, it has to be unlearnt then re-learnt. Learning the right behavior or the art or the science of sex is a process that goes on all through one’s life. At no point, can an individual claim to know all about this behavior. So even those who have no sexual problems, are benefited by counselling as it not only prevents sex problems to happen but enhances sexual pleasure too.

How important is the Sex Counselling?
Since sex is an art as well as a science, a good sexual counselling goes a long way to prevent sex problems; and to take care of them if they still occur. The counselling assumes more significance if sex is considered a pleasure & an intimacy oriented phenomenon where-in, orgasm is more important than the ejaculation. Counselling is an effective tool since sex is a learnt behavior that improves with learning & experiencing.

What all, does the sex counselling include?
It includes all issues having a direct or indirect bearing on sex life of men & women, like:

  • Counselling about Sexual Myths
  • Adolescence Counselling
  • Premarital (before marriage) Counselling
  • Marriage or Marital counselling
  • Aging & sex
  • Sexual Dysfunction Counselling
  • Sexual Variants & Paraphilias
  • Counselling for LGBT (Lesbians, Gays, Bisexuals, Trans-Sexual)
  • Sexual offences Counselling
  • STD, AIDS Counselling
  • What should be the frequency of sex?    
    It is not the frequency, but the satisfaction level that matters. Complete sexual gratification once a week is superior to a sexual encounter every day that is bereft of orgasm.

    What is the yardstick of ideal sex?
    Sex is a very personal world. There are no reference points. It is as good as one or one’s partner thinks.  However, there will always be scope to make it better. It is a life long exploration & experimentation process with a caring partner where increasing awareness about each others' needs, plays a vital role.

    Till what age, is the sex recommended?
    After the peak at about 22-25 years of age, the sex hormone starts decreasing. This, along with normal wear & tear of the body that goes with aging, does affect the quality of sex adversely. However the sexual urge & the sexual activity last as long as life does, provided a lovable & loving partner is available & there is no major illness. So sex per-se has no expiry age or shelf life. All it requires is to bring about certain modifications in the sex techniques.

    It is imperative to understand that the virility (sexual vigor & vitality) is different from fertility (producing children). While sex is an ever-lasting need, the fertility ceases in females with setting-in of menopause unlike in males where it lasts till the last breath.

    Till what age is child bearing possible?
    Virility’ and ‘fertility’ though connected, can exist independent of each other. However, the quality of egg in woman & sperm in man deteriorates with aging & it is always a good idea to complete one’s family by 30 years of age. Fertility (child bearing) in a woman ceases with menopause that may occur usually any time after 40 years whereas ability to produce children in man seems to go on for ever.

    What are the causes of Sex problems?

  • Psychological / Psychogenic / functional
  • Physical / Pathological / Organic
  • There has always been a raging debate whether the genesis/origin of bigger chunk of sex problems is Psychogenic or Pathological. But whether Psychological or physical, ultimately all cases of sexual disorders land up in Psychological problems.

     

    Sexual Dysfunction Counselling

    The commoner sexual dysfunctions are

  • Low sexual desire, painful sex, sex addiction & orgasmic disorders in men & women.
  • Impotence & premature ejaculation besides other ejaculatory dysfunctions in men.
  • Vaginismus & poor lubrication-swelling response in women.
  • Since body is where the mind is and mind is the biggest sex organ of the body, the sex initiated by mind & is sustained by the mind. Mind is very amenable to counselling & therefore, counselling plays a very vital role in Sexual Dysfunctions. Read Importance of Sex and Chemistry of sex to know in detail about sex & sexual dysfunction.

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    Other Articles Written By Dr Wadia

    Sexual Counselling

    Sexual Counselling is directed at providing the right perspective of 'sex & sexuality'. While 'sex' implies the sexual interaction, 'sexuality' encompasses a host of factors but can be summed up in simplest words as 'Sexual Personality'. Read more about Sexual Counselling to get answers to many questions that arise related to sex.

    Sexual Variants & Paraphilias

    It is important to understand the difference between sexual variations & Paraphilias. Sexual variations are sex acts which are variations or deviations of normal sex only and are therefore normal. Paraphilias on the other hand constitute abnormal or Pathological sexual behavior. Read about Sexual Variants & Paraphilias to learn more.

    Importance of Sex

    Next to survival, the most primitive & primal human instinct is sex. Inevitable or not, sex and sexuality are important for overall personality & happiness.

    Humans have not been blessed with the bliss of sex for Procreation alone. It is for Pleasure, Physical & Mental health, Emotional health & most importantly Intimacy between 2 loving partners. Some people equate sexual orgasm with Spiritual orgasm too. Read further about the importance & benefits of having a healthy sex life.

    Chemistry of Sex

    It is naively thought that sex is natural & inborn. It is not. While the urge for sex is natural & lies between ears (mind), the act of sex is learnt & lies between thighs (body). Sex is a behavior one learns by experience & through an appropriate understanding of the Chemistry of sex. Read about the Chemistry of Sex to develop true perspective of sex & hone your sexual skills.

    Sexual Myths

    Sexual myths are the most rampant myths after religious myths. Let not myths thrive on quacks & quacks thrive on myths. Read this article on Counselling for Sexual Myths to learn more.

    Sex Therapy

    Sex therapy is the structured science of treating the sex problems with the help of both, counselling & drugs. Know what sex therapy entails & how it works. Read more on Sex Therapy to learn about the role of the mind and body in sex, the commonest sex problems in men and women and more.

    Relationship Counselling

    The meaning of life is a 'meaningful relationship'. The relationship can not be taken for granted but needs working up all the time. Read more on Relationship Counselling to know the mantras of a healthy relationship to develop a deep insight into the intricacies of human relationship & minimize proneness to relationship crises.

    Aging and Sex

    Since time immemorial, ‘Aging and Sex’, has been a burning topic. It has acquired more significance in the present context as the average human life span has increased resulting in sizeable number of old age survivors. The advancement in medical sciences has further lent a hand in making people live not only longer, but healthier and active too. And the active lifestyle includes their sex life too. Read more about Aging and Sex.

    Sex and Relationship

    If ever there is a meaning to life, it is a meaningful relationship. Find some mool-mantras that can help you nurture such a relationship. Read more on Sex and Relationship.

    Premarital Counselling

    Marriage is perhaps the most important mile-stone in a person’s life, and is many a times, referred in lighter vein as the biggest gamble. Whether man or woman, getting married often looks scary- and justifiably so because of the stakes involved. Read further about Premarital Counselling to understand the importance of the institution of marriage & prepare mentally for the marriage.

    Marriage Counselling

    A marriage older than a week, has reasons for divorce. A stitch in time saves NINE. This stitch is the ‘Marital Counselling’. Counselling, timely received & acted upon, helps prevent marriage conflicts/discords altogether; or handle them efficiently & successfully if they do occur. Read further on what entails in Marriage Counselling.

    Adoloscent Counselling

    Sudden spurt in hormones in adolescence/teenagers results in rapid physical, sexual & emotional changes. The changes are so sudden & so rapid that most teenagers are caught off guard & find it difficult to cope up with them unless specifically counseled. Read more about the importance of Adolescent Counselling.