Dr (Col) V K Wadia is a renowned medical doctor with 35 yrs of practice. His expertise in treatment of Sex Problems, and effective result oriented counselling in Marriage & Relationship has won many accolades.

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Relationship Counselling

Relationship is the plank of sexual indulgence.
  
The significance of relationship in life can not be overemphasized. If ever life has a meaning, it is a meaningful relationship. In youth, nothing seems sweeter than an intimate relationship. Nearer the sunset years of life, no amount of riches or materialistic gains seem to justify the meaning or the purpose of existence.

It is only a gratifying relationship you have or have had, the treasured memories of which you hold or reflect; makes your remaining life worth living. Without going into whether sex is the cause or the consequence of a good relationship, it would be prudent to understand that relationship for sure is at the core of sex. Sex tends to be mechanical without a healthy relationship.

There are times when people experience roadblocks in relationship. The issue at its face may look irresolvable or insurmountable.  More often than not, it is not because of the bad intentions on the part of the partners or due to the gravity of the problem. It is more because men, unlike women who are from Venus, would continue to be from Mars having different needs, and thereby the perspective, and thus the approach. It is also because of the different bringing up & perceived values of the partners.

So despite best intentions towards each other, their approaches may vary leading to conflicts. A faulty approach may be the result of lack of proper insight, clouding of vision, inadequate communication, miscommunication, misperception, preconceived or biased notions, grandisation of trivial issues, bloated egos etc. etc.; on part of one or both the partners. The affected parties usually fail to analyze the problem in an unbiased, logical fashion. Over a period if there have been frequent arguments, partners bring down shutters before their minds the moment a discussion starts or an argument breaks. Their minds become impervious.

Mind, as a result of preconceived thoughts, stops registering even if the partner wants to convey something new, different & logical. That is the time when relationship counselling becomes pertinent.

Incidentally, the counselors do not have any quick-fix or tailor made solutions of such problems. In fact counselors never offer solutions. With discreet & unobtrusive approach giving due respect to confidentiality, all that the counselors do, is to provide a conducive platform to the discorded couple where they are able to voice their concerns hitherto in mind, out in the open/aloud & thrash them out with the partners. Speaking the thoughts aloud makes their own vision clearer & also helps the other partner to understand & evaluate them.

Counselor without being judgemental, has the cut out task of ensuring free flowing but constructive communication so that the partners look at the controversial issues from other’s perspective. They encourage counselees to see problems from a practical angle. The effort of counselor is to empower counselees with the capability to analyze the problems themselves, realistically & rationally.

This empowerment helps them at that point of time & subsequently too, in overcoming such challenges on their own. Counselors by virtue of being specially trained professionals with neutrality & without bias, are better positioned to analyze the problems at the ground zero level & help sparring couple to iron out their differences.

Thus relationship counselling does help couples to see the flip side of the situation & help them resolve their issues & lead a harmonious life.

It is of utmost importance to understand that the two partners must try to resolve their differences on their own as for as possible. But before they approach counselors, they must exhaust all available options. However, seeking counselling if needed, should not be delayed so much as to make the reconciliation impossible.

Read Sex & Relationship to know ‘the role of sex in relationship’ and ‘the role of relationship in sex’.

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Other Articles Written By Dr Wadia

Sexual Counselling

Sexual Counselling is directed at providing the right perspective of 'sex & sexuality'. While 'sex' implies the sexual interaction, 'sexuality' encompasses a host of factors but can be summed up in simplest words as 'Sexual Personality'. Read more about Sexual Counselling to get answers to many questions that arise related to sex.

Sexual Variants & Paraphilias

It is important to understand the difference between sexual variations & Paraphilias. Sexual variations are sex acts which are variations or deviations of normal sex only and are therefore normal. Paraphilias on the other hand constitute abnormal or Pathological sexual behavior. Read about Sexual Variants & Paraphilias to learn more.

Importance of Sex

Next to survival, the most primitive & primal human instinct is sex. Inevitable or not, sex and sexuality are important for overall personality & happiness.

Humans have not been blessed with the bliss of sex for Procreation alone. It is for Pleasure, Physical & Mental health, Emotional health & most importantly Intimacy between 2 loving partners. Some people equate sexual orgasm with Spiritual orgasm too. Read further about the importance & benefits of having a healthy sex life.

Chemistry of Sex

It is naively thought that sex is natural & inborn. It is not. While the urge for sex is natural & lies between ears (mind), the act of sex is learnt & lies between thighs (body). Sex is a behavior one learns by experience & through an appropriate understanding of the Chemistry of sex. Read about the Chemistry of Sex to develop true perspective of sex & hone your sexual skills.

Sexual Myths

Sexual myths are the most rampant myths after religious myths. Let not myths thrive on quacks & quacks thrive on myths. Read this article on Counselling for Sexual Myths to learn more.

Sex Therapy

Sex therapy is the structured science of treating the sex problems with the help of both, counselling & drugs. Know what sex therapy entails & how it works. Read more on Sex Therapy to learn about the role of the mind and body in sex, the commonest sex problems in men and women and more.

Relationship Counselling

The meaning of life is a 'meaningful relationship'. The relationship can not be taken for granted but needs working up all the time. Read more on Relationship Counselling to know the mantras of a healthy relationship to develop a deep insight into the intricacies of human relationship & minimize proneness to relationship crises.

Aging and Sex

Since time immemorial, ‘Aging and Sex’, has been a burning topic. It has acquired more significance in the present context as the average human life span has increased resulting in sizeable number of old age survivors. The advancement in medical sciences has further lent a hand in making people live not only longer, but healthier and active too. And the active lifestyle includes their sex life too. Read more about Aging and Sex.

Sex and Relationship

If ever there is a meaning to life, it is a meaningful relationship. Find some mool-mantras that can help you nurture such a relationship. Read more on Sex and Relationship.

Premarital Counselling

Marriage is perhaps the most important mile-stone in a person’s life, and is many a times, referred in lighter vein as the biggest gamble. Whether man or woman, getting married often looks scary- and justifiably so because of the stakes involved. Read further about Premarital Counselling to understand the importance of the institution of marriage & prepare mentally for the marriage.

Marriage Counselling

A marriage older than a week, has reasons for divorce. A stitch in time saves NINE. This stitch is the ‘Marital Counselling’. Counselling, timely received & acted upon, helps prevent marriage conflicts/discords altogether; or handle them efficiently & successfully if they do occur. Read further on what entails in Marriage Counselling.

Adoloscent Counselling

Sudden spurt in hormones in adolescence/teenagers results in rapid physical, sexual & emotional changes. The changes are so sudden & so rapid that most teenagers are caught off guard & find it difficult to cope up with them unless specifically counseled. Read more about the importance of Adolescent Counselling.